{"id":7187,"date":"2023-01-11T16:20:44","date_gmt":"2023-01-11T16:20:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/zangzendo.com\/?p=7187"},"modified":"2023-01-11T16:20:46","modified_gmt":"2023-01-11T16:20:46","slug":"the-biggest-mistakes-couples-make-in-a-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zangzendo.com\/the-biggest-mistakes-couples-make-in-a-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"The Biggest Mistakes Couples Make In A Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>You and your partner need to figure out if you\u2019re a good fit \u2014 or if you\u2019re even compatible \u2014 in order to have a happy marriage. The word \u201ccompatible\u201d brings to mind images of cozy family outings, slow-moving traffic, and harmonious relationships. But can love really be that simple? Do all romantic partnerships fail because they are not right for each other? Or is there another factor at work that makes some couples ineffective at maintaining their relationship? SOCIAL MEDIA REVIEW &amp; FEATURED CHALLENGE: How do you make the perfect first date? Why do people go on dates with perfectly behaved children as long as they don\u2019t know what type of person is going to go? And how can you help your friends and family get on the same page so they too will be successful in their relationship struggles? If you have any questions about how to make the right first date or how to break up bad habits, we have answers. Here are mistakes couples make that could cause lasting damage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_60 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \" >Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\" role=\"button\"><label for=\"item-66d2e8dbb5294\" ><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input aria-label=\"Toggle\" aria-label=\"item-66d2e8dbb5294\"  type=\"checkbox\" id=\"item-66d2e8dbb5294\"><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/zangzendo.com\/the-biggest-mistakes-couples-make-in-a-relationship\/#The_Age-Old_Mistake_of_Confusion_and_Disagreement\" title=\"The Age-Old Mistake of Confusion and Disagreement\">The Age-Old Mistake of Confusion and Disagreement<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/zangzendo.com\/the-biggest-mistakes-couples-make-in-a-relationship\/#The_Wrong_Focus\" title=\"The Wrong Focus\">The Wrong Focus<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/zangzendo.com\/the-biggest-mistakes-couples-make-in-a-relationship\/#The_Wedding_Invitation_Problem\" title=\"The Wedding Invitation Problem\">The Wedding Invitation Problem<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/zangzendo.com\/the-biggest-mistakes-couples-make-in-a-relationship\/#The_Self-Care_Checklist\" title=\"The Self-Care Checklist\">The Self-Care Checklist<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/zangzendo.com\/the-biggest-mistakes-couples-make-in-a-relationship\/#Too_Much_Emotional_Support\" title=\"Too Much Emotional Support\">Too Much Emotional Support<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/zangzendo.com\/the-biggest-mistakes-couples-make-in-a-relationship\/#Dating_Culture_Incorporation_DCI\" title=\"Dating Culture Incorporation (DCI)\">Dating Culture Incorporation (DCI)<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/zangzendo.com\/the-biggest-mistakes-couples-make-in-a-relationship\/#Theyre_Not_In_tune_With_Each_Other\" title=\"They\u2019re Not In tune With Each Other\">They\u2019re Not In tune With Each Other<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/zangzendo.com\/the-biggest-mistakes-couples-make-in-a-relationship\/#Over_emphasis_on_the_physical_in_a_relationship\" title=\"Over emphasis on the physical in a relationship\">Over emphasis on the physical in a relationship<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-1'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/zangzendo.com\/the-biggest-mistakes-couples-make-in-a-relationship\/#The_%E2%80%98Right_Time_To_Commit\" title=\"The \u2018Right\u2019 Time To Commit\">The \u2018Right\u2019 Time To Commit<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Age-Old_Mistake_of_Confusion_and_Disagreement\"><\/span>The Age-Old Mistake of Confusion and Disagreement<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.pexels.com\/photos\/6963043\/pexels-photo-6963043.jpeg?auto=compress&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;w=1260&amp;h=750&amp;dpr=1\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Couples make a lot of mistakes, and many of them are due to confusing factors. When you\u2019re in the midst of a relationship and unsure if you\u2019re a good fit, you\u2019re often in a state of confusion. You might not even know which buttons to push and how to say \u2018yes\u2019 to those Making a mistake is any worse than deciding you want to go running or playing an instrument, or taking a long walk up the stairs every day. Your partner might just assume you don\u2019t like to be pushed or wants to have control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Wrong_Focus\"><\/span>The Wrong Focus<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<p>Many of us have a hard time focusing on what\u2019s happening right now, instead we focus on what could be happening tomorrow. This might sound like a bad thing, but it\u2019s actually what creates the biggest rifts in the relationship \u2014 and it\u2019s what\u2019s causing many couples to break up. If you\u2019re constantly distracted, you\u2019re not in the right state of mind to create a lasting relationship. You need to spend as much time as possible on what\u2019s in front of you. So, spend less time thinking about what\u2019s going on in the world, and more time focusing on what\u2019s happening with your partner. This way, you won\u2019t be so consumed by your own problems that you miss the important things happening in the other person\u2019s life \u2014 like the day you want to go for your first date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Wedding_Invitation_Problem\"><\/span>The Wedding Invitation Problem<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.pexels.com\/photos\/6964343\/pexels-photo-6964343.jpeg?auto=compress&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;w=1260&amp;h=750&amp;dpr=1\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>First dates are definitely the perfect time to get to know your partner \u2014 and the perfect time to start a relationship. You and your partner may both have been dating since you were in your 20s, and have established an excellent reputation for yourselves. But you might not have spent that time making plans for the future. What if your partner is interested in someone else and doesn\u2019t know where to begin? Or you might have just been waiting for the right time to say \u2018yes\u2019 to your partner. The wedding invitation problem isn\u2019t new \u2014 in fact, it\u2019s very much a part of dating. If you\u2019re getting married and haven\u2019t thought about finding a date or a groomsman, or even started going out on dates, you\u2019re in for a long wait. People get married all the time, and you might not even know it. It might be because you\u2019re too busy worrying about what other people are going to think or you\u2019re too busy having fun. If you want to get to know your partner, find someone you\u2019re interested in, have a date, eat dinner with, and enjoy youreddate, then put your wedding invitation problem aside.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Self-Care_Checklist\"><\/span>The Self-Care Checklist<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<p>Like any relationship, when you\u2019re falling in love, you need to take care of your body. The same is true when you\u2019re in a committed relationship. Ideally, you\u2019re taking care of yourself by worrying less and having fun more. But many of us aren\u2019t good enough to do either. Luckily, self-care is easy and inexpensive, and can help you stay on top of all your needs while maintaining your relationship. Start by taking a daily walk, stretching your body and spending some time in the digital field, whatever you use to stay in touch with your emotions. If you\u2019re not in the mood to socialize or spend a lot of time with your partner, you can always check out therapy or counseling.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Too_Much_Emotional_Support\"><\/span>Too Much Emotional Support<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.pexels.com\/photos\/4308054\/pexels-photo-4308054.jpeg?auto=compress&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;w=1260&amp;h=750&amp;dpr=1\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Empathy is a wonderful thing \u2014 it allows us to understand another person\u2019s point of view and feelings, even if we don\u2019t shares their Same is true in relationships, too. You and your partner might both have a lot in common, but if you don\u2019t put the same amount of energy into both of you, you could end up with a lot of mutual resentment. It\u2019s easy to feel resentment when you don\u2019t get enough time to yourself; it\u2019s easy to feel abandoned when your partner isn\u2019t there for you. By putting your energy into your partner instead of into yourself, you\u2019re missing out on the amazing mental support he or she can provide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Dating_Culture_Incorporation_DCI\"><\/span>Dating Culture Incorporation (DCI)<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<p>People are more attracted to warmth and companionship than to commitment. If you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who will make you feel welcome and taken care of, you\u2019re better off without a relationship. If you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who gives you time and attention when you need it, you\u2019re better off with a committed relationship. But what\u2019s worse is when you choose to break up with your partner just because you\u2019re not in love anymore. A successful relationship doesn\u2019t just happen because one person signs on the dotted line. It takes a lot of hard work, commitment, and often lots of tears. If you want to continue to have a happy life with your partner, you need to make time for yourself and build commitments based on how you see yourself. You also need to make time for your emotions \u2014 because how you respond to your partner can determine how long a relationship lasts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Theyre_Not_In_tune_With_Each_Other\"><\/span>They\u2019re Not In tune With Each Other<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.pexels.com\/photos\/6382711\/pexels-photo-6382711.jpeg?auto=compress&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;w=1260&amp;h=750&amp;dpr=1\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>When you have a great time in a relationship, you\u2019re likely going to be able to talk to your partner about anything. But when you have a lot of problems to solve, you\u2019re likely going to be pretty difficult to get through to. If you\u2019re constantly fighting off bad habits or causing disruptions in your partner\u2019s life, you\u2019re more likely to remain a single man than a committed couple. But sometimes you have to put your relationships on the right track by yourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Over_emphasis_on_the_physical_in_a_relationship\"><\/span>Over emphasis on the physical in a relationship<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<p>People don\u2019t size up differences in physical appearance. People do that all the time, and you might as well try to ignore it. You probably won\u2019t go from a size 16 to a size 12 in a year, but you\u2019re likely to be able to grow at a healthy rate thanks to your increased muscle mass and toned body. Couples, on the other hand, need to do this thing (and do it often) that makes both of you happy \u2014 like working out. Your partner needs to spend as much time as possible lifting and lifting Surrey weights so he or she can look great in tuxedos and heels, while you need to spend as much time as possible on your emotions, on your relationships, and on making time for yourself. Improving your physical appearance is one of the best things you can do for your relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_%E2%80%98Right_Time_To_Commit\"><\/span>The \u2018Right\u2019 Time To Commit<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.pexels.com\/photos\/4308042\/pexels-photo-4308042.jpeg?auto=compress&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;w=1260&amp;h=750&amp;dpr=1\" alt=\"\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>You have the right time to commit to your partner. The right time is when you can say \u2018yes\u2019 to your partner and say \u2018yes again\u2019 when the time comes. You don\u2019t have to wait until the very end of the relationship to say \u2018yes\u2019 to your partner and say \u2018yes again\u2019 when the time comes. It\u2019s okay to say \u2018yes\u2019 now, because you don\u2019t have to wait for the \u2018right time\u2019 to say \u2018yes<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You and your partner need to figure out if you\u2019re a good fit \u2014 or if you\u2019re even compatible \u2014 in order to have a happy marriage. The word \u201ccompatible\u201d brings to mind images of cozy family outings, slow-moving traffic, and harmonious relationships. But can love really be that simple? 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